tooprettytolive:

maddigans:

asexual-domme:

• I’m okay
• I love you
• Thank you
• It’s alright
• I’m not hurt
• I’m not hurt too badly
• You’re lovely/wonderful/kind
• I enjoyed it
• It was worth it
• Take your time
• Do you need anything?
• Do you want a cuddle?
• Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?
• Do you want to talk about it?
• I’m here
• You’re not a bad person
  

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Dominants in drop require the same kind of care as subs, but a different kind of reassurance.

So important.

We need to reassure our tops!